Decoding, troubleshooting, teaching, facilitating and the subsequent healing of multi-generational patterns of dysfunction is my reason for being; my purpose. I have known this since I was a teenager when I declared, after some major family strife that the buck stops with me. I am not talking about aiming for perfection. Instead,  I am talking about having a clear and focused intention to be awake, aware and conscious of the patterns around you and their impact on the present and future generations to come.

Here is an excerpt from my 2nd book
Connecting: Rewire Your Relationship -Culture

Where It All Starts: Family-Culture
Your family-culture is all you know in the beginning. It influences all aspects of your life. This is something you engage in without thinking. It is something that gives you a sense of community, belonging and family—when it is working for you. When it is not, it may cause you to feel unhappy. It can exert undue pressure on you to conform and fit into what your family knows and has done for generations. Family-culture includes the emotional baggage handed down through generations that profoundly affects the life of any given family. The relationships, such as between parents and children, brothers and sisters, grandparents and grandchildren, are the real meat of the issue, and from where a family-culture derives. These relationships influence how a person turns out and how they interact in their own adult relationships. The family-culture has a profound effect on your relationship-culture.
What you experienced in your family dynamics growing up is largely what you will replay in your adult relationships. On the whole, we come from tribes, our families, with unique ways of doing things, and these patterns, habits and ways of communicating and relating are what you have metabolized as your family-culture, and it lives deep within your consciousness. The unresolved issues, hurts, traumas, family patterns, secrets, shames, triumphs, jealousies, abandonments and fears are all part of your particular family-culture that profoundly inform how you interact in your adult relationships and that infiltrate your relationship-culture.