Transcribed from my video at youtube.com/askvictoria

Societal and family messages are pervasively telling people that their life is less valuable without a partner or mate. That simply is not true. Your life is of value on its own simply because you are alive!

Today’s topic is, “You are the steak of your life.” What does that mean? I had a client come in last week. She came into the session, I asked her what was going on, and she told me she’d had some amazing successes in her career, and she told me what was going on, but I detected a lack of enthusiasm in her voice. In fact, I detected a downright lack of excitement, even though she was telling me about these achievements she’d just accomplished, so I asked her what that was about. She proceeded to reveal to me that she didn’t feel that her life was very valuable, that her life was not of value in fact, because she did not have a partner, a man in her life, and she really embodied that belief system. I could see it in her lack of enthusiasm. In fact it permeated most of her life, not able to celebrate her successes and wins.

I told her a story about how recently I’d been to a steak house, one of those expensive steak houses that sell you $45 pieces of meat, beautiful marbled steak, etc. Wonderful quality meat. What we experienced was this beautiful piece of meat, lovely steak, great taste, wonderful. Twenty minutes into the meal, the waiter comes barrelling down the aisle, saying, “Oh my goodness, I’m mortified, I apologize. I forgot to give you the sherry shallot gravy.” We all looked at each other and said, “You know what, this steak is fantastic without the gravy!” And he said, “No no, this is our speciality, you absolutely must have this.” So we said, “OK, put it down there.” We tried it with the gravy. The gravy was lovely, but frankly, the steak was perfect without the gravy. And that is your life. You are the steak of your life. You don’t need gravy. You don’t need a relationship to create value in your life. Your life is of value without the gravy. Your life is of value as is, simply because you are alive and you exist. That is the message I gave my client, and that is the message I want to give to you. Your life is of value, on its own. Begin to see it. Disregard all belief systems that you’ve learned from your family and society that say you are not of value, that your life is not of value, without a mate or partner. OK? Have a wonderful day.