The bully in us may be familiar because we have normalized it as a way to motivate ourselves; however, it is rarely effective, at least not for long. In fact, bullying ourselves has the opposite effect. Often we think that if we can just be disciplined and strict enough with ourselves, we will be more successful. If we don’t seem to be getting anywhere, we become impatient and get mad at ourselves, berating, criticizing, judging and yelling at ourselves. Do more! Be more! Go, go, go! To create a new pattern of behavior, you need to transform the bully voice within you into a supportive coach voice that will ease you gently into the desired change. In reality, the bully is trying to make you a better you, but in a misdirected way. In this seminar we will explore ways of transforming and neutralizing the destructive inner bully.
I speak about Relationships and the disharmony therein. Marriages, friendships, professional partnerships and entire families are eroding under the crush of codependency, commitment phobia, family of origin dysfunction, narcissism, violent communication and dating disasters. I speak about the essential need to find the “selfy self” in order to master destructive jealousy, resentment, guilt, anger and shame… the big 5 that destroy lives and companies!
